Sex is often used as a bargaining tool: could be you’re being denied it because your partner is angry with you.

Factors like kindness, stability, intelligence and emotional intelligence take precedence.Many couples come to my office with the complaint of having a sexless marriage. You start to look at younger women with murderous envy.Both parties are discouraged and frustrated (pun intended). Your sex drive starts to diminish from lack of stimulation (pun intended). You and your husband start developing parallel lives. Result: There is a painful emptiness and awkwardness in your marriage.Asexuality is an absence of sexual attraction — some asexual people are in romantic relationships where sometimes they desire sex, and some are in romantic relationships where they never desire sex, and some are not in romantic relationships at all.Sex and relationship therapist Cyndi Darnell said it was only in the last 10 years that researchers had even begun to try to understand it."We don't even understand heterosexuality especially well, we think we do because we tend to use heterosexuality as the default setting ...This is the bit when you find out if your partner is willing to work with you to build a satisfying sex life - or has no interest in trying to solve the situation.As one therapist friend of mine puts it: there’s something very wrong with the picture if your partner is saying ‘I know you’re desperately unhappy but I don’t plan on doing anything about it and still expect you to be faithful’ A: Yes – there appears to be three.