It absolutely got me to write back.” —Kim Newman, San Diego, CA Love lesson: The number-one challenge in online dating is standing out from the crowd somehow (in a good way, of course).

It doesn’t describe you with overused adjectives such as “intelligent, compassionate, educated, and independent” and it is free of boring statements that say nothing such as “I am as comfortable staying in as staying out.” Rather than continue describing what a good profile is, I want to bring to your attention real examples of three actual dating profiles from on popular site that I rated for content.

“If you have a super-weird hobby or interest, let people find out your interesting sides,” says Cherie Burbach, author of and showed an interest in Pedro Almodovar movies.

Since I’d mentioned both football and Almodovar in my profile, her note showed that she’d really read my profile, and it sealed the deal for me!

Here’s a new article which I wrote as a special to Yahoo! And while I never write emails for others, the request makes perfect sense.

———————————————————— Of all the things that clients (especially men) ask me to help them with, the most common query involves assistance with writing introductory emails.